Proper Facebook Etiquette.

 As I scroll down my Facebook timeline I often think to myself, “WTF”? I know that I can’t be alone. If you have been reading my blog for a while, then you know that I have written about Facebook before but this time it’s different. Certain things that I see I just want to reach through my computer or whatever device I happen to be on at the moment, and punch people right in the face. There needs to be some written Facebook etiquette rules because some of ya’ll need some act right, some learning, so I took the liberty. I figured if I write the rules then it will save some of you from getting punched in the throat!

1)      Please ignore the “people you may know” box on the right side of your screen if you do not actually know the person.

Now this rule is for those who just have a regular page not a fan page or any of the like. If you do not personally know someone meaning the two of you have never sat down and had a personal conversation, never hung out, never went to school together, never worked together, etc. THEN YOU DO NOT KNOW THE PERSON! Just because a person may know someone that you know doesn’t mean that you know them (DUH.) It is not proper etiquette to “FRIEND SHOP” off of other peoples Facebook friends lists! Oh…I get it…you want to appear popular? Ha!

2)      If you are anti-social and you do not “like” statuses or ever leave comments for any of your friends, stop expecting people to like and leave comments on your stuff.

 3)      Do not send game requests over and over and over again to people that you know DO NOT PLAY! It’s just rude and annoying as all hell.

 4)      Stop posting links that do not lead anywhere.

 Make sure that your ghetto link leads to somewhere BEFORE you post it! It’s like stopping to ask for directions and instead of a person telling you they don’t know where the location is, they act like they do and send you all over the damn planet. That’s rude!

 5)      It is not proper to post your whole entire life online then get mad because people are talking about you.

Facebook post: “I just had my 20th can of beer and now I’m about to drive home.”

Facebook comments: “You really should call a taxi.”

                                       “That is not the responsible thing to do.”

Your next Facebook post: “I am so tired of people always being in my damn business!”

Really?

6)      Do not tag people in corny pictures of quotes. If it isn’t funny or cute, do NOT go tagging everybody in it damnit!

7)      (For my creative folks) If people can’t post links on your wall of projects that they are working on (books, music, dancing, etc.) then DO NOT feel free to post your link on anybody else’s wall.  

 8)      It is rude to internet stalk….do not do it!

 That means do not delete someone (or get deleted by someone) and then go stalking the person’s page from someone else’s page. This is not only rude, but creepy as well.

 9)      DO NOT tag yourself in other people’s pictures!

I would think that if they wanted you tagged in their pic, they would have tagged you themselves…don’t ‘cha think?

 10)   This is the most important etiquette rule of all: DO NOT KILL PEOPLE THAT YOU MEET OFF OF FACEBOOK OR THAT YOU HAVE AS “FRIENDS”!

This is rude. This is NOT normal behavior. Stop it!

So He’s Cheating…Now What?

*A lot of my writing on this blog has been comical and light-hearted, but not today!*

Most if not all of us knows a cheater, has been a cheater or is currently a cheater. I have been receiving a lot of tearful phone calls and emotional emails these days about marriages breaking up and relationships on the rocks because he or she is cheating. The one that sticks out the most in my mind though is a couple who has been married for about 10 years.

They have grown children but the marriage is on the rocks. While I can sympathize with the woman because I can see how the cheating might affect the way she feels about herself and all that, I have a hard time really feeling completely sorry for her. This man has cheated before! Before they even walked down the aisle he cheated AND after they were married he cheated.

In my mind I’m having a hard time understanding why one would be surprised. I cannot fathom why we as people cannot believe a person the first time when they show us who they truly are. I know that some people just need a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes they just want to tell another person what they are going through. Sometimes they want sympathy. These things are hard for me when deep inside I feel like you have brought this on yourself by ignoring the big red signs that he was giving you.

I was watching a talk show the other day and the woman was saying that because her husband cheats on her, she was going to get plastic surgery. She felt that if she could make herself prettier then he would stop cheating. Huh? I was dumbfounded as I sat and watched this perfectly fine young woman talk about her husband’s infidelities. She was so confused about her own self-worth that she was willing to get operations and risk her life to keep this man at home and from straying. If no one else sees a problem with that thinking, I do. She even mentioned during the segment that he had cheated on her before the marriage and apparently he was still at it. AGAIN: why is she crying and so hurt?

Of course I’m not saying that people can’t change, I’m just saying that if a person repeatedly shows you something, it’s best to adopt the thinking that they are not lying to you!

I understand that for a woman, cheating can make us feel like we are less than. It has the power to make us question our femininity and to make us doubt ourselves. At the same time, we have to learn to take a step back and look at the situation from a realist point of view. If a man (or woman) cheats that is their character. That is who they are as a person and most times it has nothing to do with their significant other and what that person is or isn’t doing. It has been my experience that cheaters don’t need a real valid reason, they do what they want to do regardless of how the other person might feel once the dirty secret is found out.

(Oh by the way since you’re here, dont forget to pick up your copy of my new book Loves Wrong Turns by Melody S on Amazon!!)